How Not To Succeed
“I can’t do that” from the time I was a child I would offer up that objection and of course as a child my parents would try to convince me I was wrong and that they were right but with little success. Now I knew I was smarter than they were after all they keep telling me I could do things I keep saying I couldn’t and I always turned out to be right so of course I had to be smarter right? Let me tell you something if my parents were still alive I would still be telling them just how wrong I was.
Ok so at this point I can here you saying wait a minute you said you couldn’t do it, it turned out you couldn’t do it so you were right not wrong. Well you know that is how life teaches us to believe. Through trial and error, we can determine what we can and what we cannot do. Well let me say this IT”S JUST NOT TRUE! You see we have many driving forces in us as human beings and one of the strongest forces we have is a desire to please ourselves. We are truly miserable when we are not pleasing our self and therein lay the problem. Listen to this close. If you tell yourself you cannot do something then you will be right because you want to please you. You want to be right and be pleasing so bad that even if you know the decision is going to hurt you it is still a decision you will stick by.
If you don’t believe me ask anyone that has ever tried to quit smoking and they will all tell you the same thing. The addiction to the drug was not hard (there are medicines for that) the oral addiction was not hard (there are always substitutes like suckers or other candies) but the thing that was the hardest was to believe that they could go without cigarettes. They were conditioned so that on a regular basis, they HAD to have a cigarette and now even when the addiction to the drug was being sated in other ways to be pleasing to themselves they still wanted a cigarette. It is not until they realize that this is happening and make a conscious effort to break the chain that they are able to break free of the addiction once and for all. In making the decision to be free of it they have established a new routine that while it takes time just as the old one did will replace the old one. Then and only then will it get to where not smoking is what is pleasing to them and therefore they will be a nonsmoker. As someone who has been there let me tell you that time period were one desire is fighting the other desire is one of the toughest things ever.
Ok so you may be thinking what has that got to do with me, I don’t smoke, I don’t drink, I don’t use drugs so I must be ok. Well let’s see now how many times have you said “but I’m doing the best I can” and the people around you will all agree. The problem is that this just isn’t true! You can do a whole lot more than you currently are and achieve a whole lot more than you are currently achieving but it has to start with the realization that you can. It has to start with you reprogramming your own thinking to believe that this isn’t the best it gets and I am no longer going to settle for just this. As I pointed out earlier in this article this will be one of the toughest battles you will ever face. But understand that when you succeed at winning this battle you will have laid the groundwork for a lifetime of changes that will shape your future into a wonderful and glorious life just begging to be enjoyed. It you choice, you already know how not to succeed we learned that all our lives, why not give success a try? I think you will like the change.