Life Is A Bowl Of Cherries
So you have been living a good life, you have an abundance of friends, your bills are always paid on time, you send your children to the best schools and all your friends tell you “you have it made”. Well, let me ask you this; if life is so good, and “you have it made” then why do you feel like your life is falling apart. Why does it feel like you cannot even think about handling the pressures that are mounting every day? Why are you here now looking for change in your life if as they say, “you have it made” I have a few ideas that I think just may apply to you as well as they did to me.
As I said in my last article, Life of the Party I had what to anyone who didn’t know me well what appeared as if I had it made. Life was indeed a bowl of cherries. I was popular, making good money, busy, and all the other things that went along with that lifestyle. What I couldn’t see at that time was that what I really was had more to do with being lonely, tired, needy, poor, hurting, in other words the pits.
I don’t know if you have ever experienced it first hand and if not you can count your blessings but I remember the first time I felt an overwhelming sense of loneliness. I was in the middle of over 5000 people. All of them where there just like I was but the strange thing was that they all seemed to be alone. Now don’t misunderstand me some of them were with friends, lovers, family but most of them seemed like they would be enjoying a tooth extraction more. This was a company event and they felt obligated to be there. The company had spent a large amount on food and drink for them to “be happy” so they had to show up. They were miserable and most of them had no idea why. They didn’t understand, nor did I at the time that it takes a lot more than food, drink, and people to be happy.
As I mentioned earlier in the article Life of the Party I was out 2, 3, 4, times a week and working full time. In other words I was busy, to busy, too busy to realize just how tired I was becoming. While I was spending my day earning the money that afforded me to spend the evenings out many of the people I was with were sleeping (after all I had all the money we needed) so I couldn’t understand why they were full of energy and I was ready to drop. I thought things like those that I must need to take more or better vitamins because they are full of life and I am so tired. I fortunately didn’t fall down the road of drug abuse but I can certainly see how so many of the very people we criticize for drugs have ended up there. A little energy boost here, something to get to sleep over there, something to relax so they can enjoy things. It happens so subtly and yet so quick. In my next article Exercise the mind and the body I will go more in depth on some of the other things I was feeling (lonely, tired, needy, poor, hurting) but for now just begin to realize that things are often not what they seem.